It’s great to get out of Rehab and feel all new again. This is time to focus on doing what it takes to stay the course and reap the full rewards of life in recovery. Here are 5 pitfalls to avoid that lead to relapse and the need to start all over again, or the wish to give up altogether.
1. Expecting Immediate Results
A stint in rehab may touch on the problems of whatever is your drug of choice may be. But unless you’ve been in treatment for many months, preferably a year, there wasn’t time to address the underlying issues that drove you to addiction in the first place. Expecting immediate results in the form of excellent relationships and a good job will lead to disappointment and frustration. Recovery takes time. Go easy on yourself about what may seem like baby steps to your new life. Treat yourself with a pat on the back for every small step you take.
2. Obsessing About The Future
When you’re thinking about what you want to be in six months or five years, you’re not living in the moment. A really important component of good recovery is being able to comfortably occupy the present. What matters is now. What you do, how you take care of yourself, your relationships with your world, and other people. By taking care of the present, the future will take care of itself. Stay in the moment.
3. Comparing Yourself With Others
People in recovery all too often have lost a lot of precious time, not to mention, money, relationships, and careers. Early recovery can be a time of happiness and pride for having conquered an addiction. It has painful elements, too, when regrets surface about what has occurred. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself with family members and peers and even strangers who didn’t miss a beat while you were crashing and burning. They seem to have it all while you are still taking the bus and working a humble sober job. Gauge your success by where you are now, comparing what was for you to what is for you. Other people are not always what they seem, and your progress may seem slow but will get you there as long as you stick with it. Compare only where you were with where you are.
4. Doing Too Much
It may seem that your health is on the mend and you are finally free from addiction. You look and feel better. You may think you’re ready to jump back into life with both feet right after rehab, but don’t try it. The pressure of doing too much and expecting too much of yourself can derail your recovery. So don’t overload on commitments, work, or relationship demands because they can lead to an overwhelming desire to escape into old patterns. Take it slow. Do just what feels right.
5. Going It Alone
Isolation is a big part of addiction. You live entirely to feed your habit, lying, cheating, even stealing if necessary to get what you need. Recovery demands the exact opposite. No one can do recovery by him/herself. Addiction you can do alone, recovery requires people for support. Asking for help, going to meetings, or being part of a group, does not come naturally for many people who choose recovery. But learning how to do it and working, with and for, other people are necessary and so worth it for recovery to be exciting, fun, and truly sustainable. Get with a program to be with others. You know what I’m talking about. Meetings, meetings, meetings with the program of your choice.
Reach Out Recovery Exclusive By Leslie Glass