Children are children, and when someone acts as a child does, the response elicited is often to stop acting like a child. Further, we are scolded to grow up. Not far out of childhood, it’s no wonder that the monikers attached to teens are often – indecisive, sulky, uncommunicative, and secretive. Growing up is something they’re moving toward.
According to research, the twenties is the decade of life most people, when asked, would want to return to … it is a period recollected as fun and free. Twenty-somethings are setting up households in new cities, towns and villages and even in new states. They are alone, many for the first time, in places far from home and without the presence of their immediate families. They are deemed an adventurous lot; exploring the possibilities that they have created for themselves. But thousands are also in pain, worried about the future and whether they will succeed in life. They wonder “Am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing?”
In our thirties, we are supposed to be settled, and starting a new phase with families and careers of our own. The forties are for staying the term, buckling down and saving for education and retirement. Final push in the fifties to complete what we started, retire and have some time for ourselves to do the things that a caretaker never has time for …. self-care.
Having Fun, Or Not
Sixties are supposed to be reserved for pure enjoyment! Those who can return to the twenties way of thinking and begin new hobbies or start businesses in a completely different direction. Others are enjoying grandchildren and families, or traveling to see the world. Still others are grieving the loss of a spouse and giving themselves time to heal. Anything can happen in your sixties.
What About Now
The focus of each decade is always the same however the verbiage changes. There’s moving forward, looking forward, and keeping up with; there’s commencement, graduation, planning for the future, what to do next, and bucket-lists to complete before moving on to the next thing. Multitasking helps us accomplish these endeavors in a way that propels us to the next project.
Slow Down To Right Now
It seems to me that we live in the future when our future is actually right now – in the present. It takes some mindful mental effort to slow down our thoughts and be here right now and not thinking about what we could, should or would be doing if we weren’t doing the task we really are doing.
Sounds simple, right? Try it: when you’re vacuuming – just vacuum. When your mind starts to wander off onto the hamster wheel of thoughts that everyone’s does… bring yourself back to the present task without judgment or berating yourself by asking, “What am I doing right now?” Answer: “I’m vacuuming.” That’s it.
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