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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 2 years, 10 months ago
Growing up in an alcoholic family can cause trauma
Growing up in an alcoholic family caused wounds that still stalk me, but they can be healed. I’ve identified the five most painful issues I’m currently facing. […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 2 months ago
Like most adult children of alcoholics, I don’t know what normal is, so I’m often unaware that I’m in an abnormal, unhealthy situation. How can I solve a problem I don’t know I have?
What children of alcoholics […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 2 months ago
When I first came into recovery, I didn’t know what is detachment, or how enmeshed I was with family problems that were out of my control. I was bitter and burnt out. I heard the word detachment and ran.
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 3 months ago
Addiction is a family disease. Everyone is affected and roles are assigned early. My role in the family is peacemaker. The Bible says, “Blessed are the peacemakers.” I don’t like to question such a respected […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 3 months ago
According to the CDC, one in three women and one in four men have been victims of physical abuse. For one in five women and one in seven men the abuse is severe, yet many take a long time to or simply refuse to […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 3 months ago
Adult children of alcoholics are molded for dysfunction. What does that mean? It means that the elephant in our world is crisis, and all reality is denied from the moment we’re born. Every day is life in the […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 4 months ago
I want the time spent with my extended family to be filled with love, good food, and memories. Instead, drama hangs in the air like secondhand smoke. An afternoon my Mom’s is often filled with repressed anger, t […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 5 months ago
Why is fear such a common bond among adult children of alcoholics? More importantly, how do we overcome the terror of so many things that stalk us throughout life?
Safe Fears
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 6 months ago
When I first came to recovery, I was certain steps 8 and 9 would be a breeze. After all, I hadn’t hurt anyone (Step 8), so I didn’t need to make any amends (Step 9). I was wrong. So wrong. In fact, every day I […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 6 months ago
I hate being lied to. I grew up in a den of liars, so as a parent, I refuse to tolerate lying, but that’s easier said than done. My teenage son Keith has lied to me twice in the last 12 hours.
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 7 months ago
My father wasn’t the trustworthy Dad I longed for and it affected me for years. Although he did love me, it was almost always from afar, where he was safe enough to not get attached to me. When he did get close, I […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 9 months ago
This year, the holidays are hitting me hard. Thanks to Pandora, I’ve heard “I’ll Be Home For Christmas” and “(There’s No Place Like) Home For The Holidays” about 20 times every hour for the last three weeks. And […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 9 months ago
It’s the question this God-fearing, church-going Mom doesn’t want to face, but I can’t deny the truth any longer. In August, my teenage son, Keith, found the seedy underbelly of the internet. At 40, I’m still too […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 4 years, 11 months ago
Two weeks ago, my very codependent mother came over for a socially distant afternoon visit. She’s negative, bossy, and controlling. She constantly worries about everyone else’s business, and her behaviors are […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 5 years, 4 months ago
According to my Mother, my brother Ricky needs extra love and care because of his addiction. My family rights are ignored. She always favors what’s right for Ricky. In recovery, I learn I have rights […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 5 years, 9 months ago
My brother Ricky called me, his big sister whenever he needed help. I threw on my hero’s cape and flew to his side. He had been taught there were no consequences to substance use. I was taught to be […]
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Grace Silverstone wrote a new post 5 years, 11 months ago
When I became a Mom, I vowed I would never abuse my son Keith the way my parents hurt me. Instead, I’ve been too soft and now my child is hurting me. How can I learn to take control without losing […]