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19 Symptoms Of Emotional Abuse For People In Denial

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19 Symptoms Of Emotional Abuse For People In Denial

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19 Symptoms Of Emotional Abuse For People In Denial

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When substance abuse disorder enters our loved one's life, denying their substance abuse and the emotional abuse that goes with it is never far behind.

Substance and alcohol use disorder (the new term for addiction) are now understood as a chronic relapsing brain disease that will not get better on its own.

For friends, lovers, and family members acceptance is tough. Our loved ones are denying their addiction and we are too. We think:

  • It's not sooooooooooo bad.
  • It could be worse.
  • He/she is just having a bad week or a bad run of luck.

This kind of denial doesn't occur with other chronic diseases. We find it easier to accept cancer, diabetes, heart disease.

Red Flags That You Are In Denial

At first your loved one may try to distract you from finding out about the addiction. They might employ manipulation tactics like:

  • Keeping you off base
  • Putting you on the defensive
  • Hurting your feelings for no reason
  • Making you over-react instead of think rationally

These constant barbs and arrows of a loved one's bad or destructive behavior needs are actually forms of abuse.  This kind of abusive behavior can also occur in people who are not using substances. There are plenty of controlling and narcissistic people among us who hurt others just to keep them in line.

With Substance Use Disorder, however, both abuse and denial of the abuse are a symptoms of the disease. Here are 19 symptoms of abuse. For every one, you may have many rationalizations of why it's occurring or isn't so bad.

  1. Humiliating and embarrassing you
  2. Constantly putting you down and then acting innocent, or saying you're too sensitive
  3. The silent treatment – refusing to communicate
  4. Ignoring or excluding you
  5. Cheating on you or having extramarital affairs
  6. Being provocative with the opposite sex
  7. Using sarcasm and an angry voice when talking to you
  8. Being jealous for no reason
  9. Being extreme moody and changeable
  10. Constantly making fun of you and being mean
  11. Guilt tripping you about things you should have done
  12. Threatening “If you don’t____, I will_____
  13. Making everything your fault. You, you, you…
  14. Isolating you from your friends and family
  15. Using your money and stealing from you
  16. Keeping constant tabs on you: texting and calling on the phone
  17. Threatening to commit suicide
  18. Threatening to walk out of the relationship
  19. Having more than one addiction, not only to drugs or alcohol but to pornography and other substances

Substance abuse often leads to these forms of emotional abuse. They create unbalance, fear and anxiety, even PTSD in loved ones. They are more than just words that can be explained away. When you stop denying the reality, you can take the necessary steps to regain control of your own feelings and life. This is imperative to start the healing process.

Also, be sure to tell someone you trust what's going on. Abuse can only thrive in silence. If those you trust don't believe you, seek professional help immediately. It's also the perfect time to join a support group. Al-anon, and Nar-anon are support groups for people who have been hurt by addiction. Many people have found life-long friends there. Likewise, if you need help to deal with addiction and recovery, check out Recovery Guidance for a free and safe resource to find professionals near you.


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