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How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Using

In an intimate and caring relationship, accepting your loved one is a substance abuser is the hardest thing in the world. Whether you’re living together, in a committed relationship, engaged or married, no matter what the genders of the couple, the feelings and problems are equally difficult. Someone you love is caught up in something dangerous and beyond your control. Your feelings will run from disbelief, fear and betrayal, anger, concern and back again. What you do and how you handle it is important. Your future will depend on taking care of yourself and being able to understand and accept the situation. Addiction doesn’t go away when it’s ignored.

First Be Observant

Do some detective work. That means taking care to watch what’s going on and making notes about how your loved one is acting toward you and everything else. Learn about addiction and the changes that occur in personality and behavior.

Know The 12 Warning Signs

Not all of them will be applicable to your loved one, but these are common signs of substance and alcohol abuse and addiction

  1. Mood swings
  2. Anger, impatience, irritable behavior, especially when confronted
  3. Sudden appearance of new friends
  4. Secrecy about activities and whereabouts
  5. You found Items that you suspect might be drug paraphernalia
  6. Pupils are often either enlarged or constricted. Methamphetamine or cocaine will enlarge the pupil while heroin and other opiates will constrict the pupils
  7. Smells different, alcohol, marijuana and other drugs can change body odor
  8. Loss of appetite
  9. Money and other items have been disappearing
  10. Neglecting things that used to be important—family, church, relationships, activities
  11. Neglect of personal hygiene and personal appearance
  12. Sudden secret phone calls and texting

Educate Yourself About Substances

If you have little knowledge of drug addiction, then learning more about different classes of drugs will also be helpful to you. Most drugs give fairly precise symptoms if you know what to look for.

Get Help

Addiction is not a choice. It now medical specialty described as an chronic relapsing brain disease. Don’t’ try to change anyone on your own, it won’t work. Seek professional help from a therapist, addiction professional, doctor.

And visit  Al-Anon.org to learn from others experiencing the same issues.

 

 

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Leslie Glass is the founder of Reach Out Recovery and the winner of the 2016 ASAM Media Award. Leslie is also the creator of Recovery Guidance, the information website for those seeking addiction and mental healthcare for professionals nationwide. Leslie is a journalist, director/producer of award-winning documentaries, and the author of 15 bestselling novels. Leslie has served as Chairman of the Board of Plays For Living, was a member of the Board of Directors of Mystery Writers of America. She has served as a Public Member of the Middle States Commission of Higher Education, as a VP of The Asolo Theatre, and was a Trustee of the New York City Police Foundation.

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