The holidays are here and most people celebrate the season by attending parties or inviting people to their home. Many spent the last few weeks dreaming of white picket fence homes with a Norman Rockwell interior photos of families. Unfortunately, these visions of happy guests opening gifts by the fireplace is no longer the norm. Here's what to do and how to enjoy the holidays despite the chaos that addiction brings to our lives.
1. Manage Your Expectations
Some of our expectations are rooted from our own experience, or by watching movies such as White Christmas. In real life there is no perfection, and your family member will not behave “good” all of a sudden because it’s holiday time. Be prepared and don’t raise the bar too high.
2. Have Firm Ground Rules
If an active user is in your midst, clearly communicate behavior expectations around children and elderly members of the family. Follow with consequences if and when needed.
3. Intervene As A Family
The holidays are perfect times to conduct an intervention for your loved one while all family members gather together. However, do not do it impromptu. Interventions need to be planned, talked over with other family members, and only then you might get you loved active user’s attention.
4. Keep Anxiety At Bay
If your loved one is in recovery, do not fret over him or her. No need to get anxious that they might have a relapse. If he or she does relapse, the family needs to confront it and take action. Take the relapse seriously; however, don’t over react for it is not the end of the world.
5. Take Care Of Your And Let Go
We can’t stress enough about how important it is to care for yourself and let go of outcomes. Fatigue breeds a sense of helplessness. Want to enjoy your guests more?
- Go for that walk in nature
- Hit the gym
- Take that long bath before all the guests arrive
You will be rested enough when the time comes to respond and take action if necessary. Finally, enlist others to help. Then everyone can share in the warmth of holiday hosting.
Addiction is not a secret, but life can be lived and enjoyed despite having a son, daughter, husband or a wife whom are active users.
Sometimes, treating addiction requires professional help. Visit Recovery Guidance to find treatment options near you.