Who decides what’s right and what’s wrong when people disagree or have a problem to solve? How should we behave? Families, workplaces, the playground all have certain codes of conduct. In government we have a code of conduct, too, but it doesn’t always work. Conflict resolution is something we all need right now.
What Is A healthy Conflict Environment
Here’s Are 4 Components That Make A Safe Place To Explore Issues
- Everyone has an equal voice. No one can dominate by battering.
- Everyone’s opinion matters. Really.
- Everyone behaves on a mature way, leaving baggage from family of origin behind.
- Ethics and principles of fair play are the guides for finding solutions that work for everyone.
Basic Questions To Ask Yourself Before Starting
- How is this one particular conflict affecting the whole group dynamic.
- Am I actively listening to others and not reacting to them?
- Do I let others voice their opinions and ideas.
- Am I helping to find a resolution or hindering by making it all about me.
We are not all right or we are not all wrong – In conflict resolution we look for the balance in the situation. Despite the disagreements, we look to serving the common goal. We are all trying to reach the goal, but perhaps each has a different route. Do I set aside my differences in order to resolve the conflict is a question that you should ask yourself.
Ask yourself – Despite the conflict what is the single purpose we are trying to achieve? What is our united focus? Can we leave other issues outside of this one discussion and not add fuel to the fire by brining on other issues or conflicts?
Mutual Respect Is Key
in a healthy conflict situation we intentionally set aside our personal power or authority, it’s not about winning or losing but rather arriving at a common destination. Here are seven questions everyone should ask themselves as they begin the resolution process.
- Do I keep an open mind? And respond rather than react to the parties involved?
- Do I have compassion and understanding for all who are involved in this one issue and conflict?
- How can I show kindness to others whose opinions are different than mine?
- Do I know and acknowledge that there is abundance in the universe and I do not have to make fear based decisions?
- Do I fear that I might be left without if our conflict leads us to disagree with each other?
- How do I communicate my personal experience in an improved communications manner in the current discussion?
- How do I remind myself that while in conflict I share as equal, not less than the other parties involved and not more?
- How do I not get distracted by other issues that are not related to the conflict?
I have to remind myself that while there is a conflict, I am not being attacked personally, but rather I will work with others to find solutions to the issue at hand. We need this in every area of life.
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