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Overwhelmed? How To Take A Break

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Overwhelmed? How To Take A Break

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Panic. You know that feeling of mounting overwhelm? When too much is on your plate, is your tendency to panic? Is your go-to response to believe that you are all alone? Do you forget about those eager to lend a helping hand? Too often, when we need help the most, our panic spirals out of control.

We Turn Away Outside Help

Often, we allow panic to drive our lives into isolation. We decide we're strong. We don’t need anyone else’s help. Instead, we roll up our sleeves and go it alone. Maybe we secretly want help, but we don’t allow ourselves to take. We end up shutting out the people who want to help to us.

We Keep On Caregiving And Refuse To Do Care-taking

Because we call ourselves generous, and our efforts in caregiving are enormous. Care-taking, however, is another story. “Taking” just sounds self-centered and greedy, while “giving” sounds thoughtful and kind.

We convince ourselves that we shouldn’t take care of anything for ourselves while we eagerly and freely give our time to others.

Adding more and more to our already overcrowded lives, it’s no surprise that panic is a result.

Freeze Your Spiral Of Over-Giving

Instead, in that moment of overwhelm, what if we realized that without taking there can be no giving? That taking help offered by another is also an act of generosity? That life just doesn’t flow if everyone gave and no one took.

Practice Taking

Be curious as to how this shows up in your life by observing how you take a compliment. Does “I love your sneakers” elicit a response from you of self-depreciation - “Oh, these old things?” Or do you reciprocate - “They’re nothing special. But I looooove your dress!” Or maybe you deflect it entirely – “Nonsense, they’re just sneakers.” Do you ever just take the compliment and simply say “thank you”? Try it. See how it feels to take care of yourself by letting others contribute to you. People who feel healed want to heal others. Let them.


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Elizabeth is a certified Educational Specialist and Success Coach. She has a BA, MS in biology with a concentration in ethology (animal behavior), is an EAGALA Equine Specialist in equine assisted learning and personal development, and has extensive personal leadership skills. She spent much of her career in education at the high school, college and correctional facility levels teaching biology & chemistry and acting in the capacity of a success coach. Elizabeth presents workshops and seminars which address communication issues as they manifest in personal relationships. She uses writing as both a creative and cathartic outlet, especially after losing both of her parents to cancer in 2015. She lives in upstate NY, on a farm that bears the name of her motto: Be Unreasonable! She's invested in empowering others in moving their pieces forward in the world.

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