According to researchers from Flinders University in Australia, the more time you spend on Facebook, the less likely you are to like your own body. Whoa. What just happened there? How did time spent on social media correlate to body image?
Turns out that when building a positive self-image … social media is not the place to start. Turns out that inspiration looks like competition and empowerment looks like boasting.
But why is that? What have we missed?
When we look at a screen and see that someone has accomplished something, our mind is quick to compare and to look for reasons why whatever that thing was they did so well – happened. And why we can’t accomplish the same thing. We tell ourselves it’s because “she’s beautiful…” or “he has money…” It’s “but she’s always been smart…” or “ but they went to college…”
“But, I’m not” and “But, I didn’t” stops us in our tracks and keeps us stuck in our own negative self-talk. It’s what we are saying about ourselves that impacts us. Not the accomplishments of those on social media. It’s through our own lens that we see ourselves as less than and not good enough. Our mind hears what we are saying, takes it quite literally and perpetuates our own negative self-image. We have created a habit.
Which is great news! If we created it – we can create another habit that is less destructive to our body image.
It is through habit change that we discover all that is good in us.
Try it! Be mindful next time you’re on social media and an inspirational story pops up – be curious as to where your mind drifts as a go-to response. Do you reason yourself into how you can’t or aren’t? Or do you read the story, get inspired and create a possibility for yourself?
Reach Out Recovery Exclusive by Elizabeth Viszt