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My Sober Birthday And Not Missing Out

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My Sober Birthday And Not Missing Out

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My Sober Birthday And Not Missing Out

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It's my sober birthday today, and you're invited to the party. After a decade of passing on the martinis, sobriety is my norm. It's also the norm for my family. That means no martinis, wine, or beer in our homes or at our gatherings. We're not against alcohol. Alcohol is fine in moderation. Since not everyone can control the amount they imbibe, we have to make the world comfortable for those who want the recovery lifestyle. Let's just say we walk the recovery walk ourselves, and we're not missing out. At home, we actually talk, play games, enjoy our communications in a way we couldn’t when alcohol was part of our lives. There are more benefits, of course, but too many to mention here.

Why My Sober Birthday Matters

We live in a truly boozy world where there is the universal belief that no end-of-work day, sports event, party, family reunion, celebration, or moment of depression is complete without having a couple of drinks. The result is not good for our children, workplaces, schools, or family environment. There are, however, some easy changes we can make.

Children will do what their parents do, what their friends do, and what they see on TV and in the movies. So, parents need to think about the messages they send with their own habits. Not drinking (or smoking dope) at home in front of children will remove the tease factor, and the temptation to steal from parents' stash. Face it, your kids will steal your alcohol, cigarettes, pain pills, whatever you use. It’s a fact of life. They will lie about doing it, and you will believe them. Sending a different message at home makes a difference.

My Sober Birthday

I remember my sober birthday date: August 25, 2008. Sober birthdays are very meaningful. Just as many “alcoholics” can remember their first drink, I clearly remember the two events that caused me to eliminate the booze from my life. One night a drunken and scary fight between close friends made me want to be safe from the behavior changes that occur with drinking. I didn’t want to be part of it. I was on vacation with them and had to leave. Drinking was toxic to them and to me. But sobriety was already on my mind. Some of own family members were finally ready to take the sobriety step and I wanted to walk with them into what we then thought was the Missing Out Sea of Misery.

Recovery Changes You Can Make

The first thing that happens when you stop drinking is that friends and family members who do drink are dismayed and suspicious, you may need counseling or help to deal with it.. They try to argue you out of your choice to abstain, and keep trying to give you a drink, “just one” even years later. People who know you well and even love you a lot will still want you to drink with them. That is their business. It has nothing to do with you, but can hurt if you're not expecting it.

In my decade of sobriety, the world outside of recovery has not changed, and even worsened with regard to health risks. And temptations to relapse are everywhere. But there are many signs of hope as well. The recovery lifestyle is gaining acceptance. And happily, many people now celebrating sober birthdays are parents just like me.

Even if you're not ready for full sobriety, you can make a difference by not drinking in front of your children.

Coloring BookDid you know the 12 Steps, which have helped millions find recovery, can also help parents find peace and serenity? Check out our latest book, Find Your True Colors In 12-Steps.

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Leslie Glass is the founder of Reach Out Recovery and the winner of the 2016 ASAM Media Award. Leslie is also the creator of Recovery Guidance, the information website for those seeking addiction and mental healthcare for professionals nationwide. Leslie is a journalist, director/producer of award-winning documentaries, and the author of 15 bestselling novels. Leslie has served as Chairman of the Board of Plays For Living, was a member of the Board of Directors of Mystery Writers of America. She has served as a Public Member of the Middle States Commission of Higher Education, as a VP of The Asolo Theatre, and was a Trustee of the New York City Police Foundation.

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