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Co-Dependent Moves Across Town

Co-dependent moves across town

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Co-Dependent Moves Across Town

Co-Dependent Moves Across Town

What happens when this Co-dependent moves across town? Do I make healthy choices like asking for help or using the slogan easy does it? Will I be wise to leave all of my unhealthy habits here?  I should, of course, it’s not that simple.

Co-dependency Makes Me Find My Value What Others Say About Me

That means I expect myself to do more than humanly possible to get the praise I crave. if I can pack my house all by myself in just one day, surely someone will say, “Wow. You are amazing. How on earth did you manage to do that all by yourself? That would’ve taken me weeks.” Then I would muster my last remaining bit of strength to reply, “Oh, it was nothing.” And smile. The smile’s authentic because other people’s praise is my drug.

Why Can’t I Ask For Help

Recovering from Co-dependency takes understanding and practice. I am aware of the problem. We have to practice our new healthy habits “in all our affairs,” so it makes sense that our unhealthy habits are also lurking in the dark corners of all our affairs.

I Forgot To Practice Recovery Tools In My Move

I was in denial about how much work needed to be done, and more importantly, I refused to ask for help.

According to Dr. Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages, I primarily show love to others by acts of service. Of course I do. Believe it or not, I had to take the quiz to figure that out.

This Co-dependent came out of the womb wanting to serve others. Over time, my valiant efforts to receive love the love I wanted (in the form of acts of service) proved to be unfruitful. Hence the story of my orange tree. Hurt and dejected, I vowed to protect my broken heart by building tall walls. More about that some other time.

I Keep Expecting Others To Speak My Love Me Language

Even though couldn’t stop doing it all myself, but I did try to find a few of my recovery tools.

  1. I tried to just look at the next 12 hours
  2. I asked myself, “How important is it?”
  3. Finally, I texted my friends from recovery to ask for prayer

Not Proud Of My Progress Here

It was messy, but it’s over. Today, I have two choices. I can look back on the mess I made with disapproval and disdain, or I can be gentle with myself. In this move, I became aware of how my bad habits hurt me and my family. That awareness leads to acceptance, and then action. Maybe by the next time I move, I might actually be willing to let a friend help me pack.

Recipe For The Co-Dependent’s Cupboard is Bare Coffee

Moving is tough, but my coffee pot is always the last item to be packed and the first one to be unpacked. So what can you do when your milk and/or creamer is in another home? Make it Russian.

  • 1 or more (no judgement here) Cup of hot coffee
  • 1 or more scoops (again, no judgement) of ice cream

Plop ice cream into hot coffee, stir and enjoy. Friends in Russia often enjoy this beverage after a delicious meal, but for me, it’s a great way to start moving day.

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Pam is the author of Co-dependent In The Kitchen, and she’s a contributing editor for Recovery Guidance. She’s a recovery advocate who likes long walks on the beach and chocolate.

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