Enabling Adult Children Who Only Want Money
Enabling Adult Children Drove Me Crazy For Years This is the time of the year when enabling adult children can be the most difficult for parents. Your children can guilt you over grandchildren’s needs and not having enough funds to support them. They can keep grandchildren from you and refuse to be with you over […]
Changing The Toxic Family Dynamic
Are you in a toxic family dynamic without even knowing it? Where I grew up it was common for girls to be raised to care for “The Other Person First.” Any other person. It didn’t matter whether the person you were supposed to care for was mean to you or hurt you. You had to […]
Am I Enabling When I Help
“Am I enabling?” is a question people often ask when dealing with loved ones struggling with addiction or recovery. What is enabling? We want to help and support and encourage but often we promote the very behaviors we want to end. People have many excuses for enabling, so it’s a really good question to ask […]
Do You Have An Enabler Stop Button
Your enabler stop button can change your life What is an enabler stop button? You are probably aware, or have heard, the concept of co-dependent/enabling. What you may not know is that there is a Stop Button, too. Who holds your stop button and when can you push it? Let’s explore. What is co-dependent and […]
Are You One Of The Ten Most Wanted Enablers
There has been a rash of crimes by a well known gang of enablers. They often swoop into a crisis and derail reality by helping their loved one to avoid the consequences of his or her actions. These enablers interfere in the natural process of life.
Why Children Of Alcoholics Become Over-Responsible
My brother Ricky called me, his big sister whenever he needed help. I threw on my hero’s cape and flew to his side. He had been taught there were no consequences to substance use. I was taught to be over-responsible for EVERYTHING. One time, after a night of binge drinking, he needed a ride […]