Fear Stalks Adult Children of Alcoholics
Adult Children Of Alcoholics Have Deep-Seated Fear In Common Why is fear such a common bond among adult children of alcoholics? More importantly, how do we overcome the terror of so many things that stalk us throughout life? Adult Children Of Alcoholics: Here Are Safe Fears Heights, spiders, tight spaces – they all make me […]
4 Steps For Resolving Conflicts
Resolving Conflicts Is A Skill You Have To Cultivate Who decides what’s right and what’s wrong when people disagree or have a problem to solve? How should we behave? Here are four steps for resolving conflicts. Resolving Conflicts 1. Define What Unites Conflicts are not black and white. They are glorious swirling shades of gray. […]
Child Of Alcoholic Seeks Loving Father Figure
My father wasn’t the trustworthy Dad I longed for and it affected me for years. Although he did love me, it was almost always from afar, where he was safe enough to not get attached to me. When he did get close, I was often the one who got hurt. When I was a kid, […]
Valentine’s Validation
A Valentine validation was what I wanted this year. Of course flowers and candy and nice, but sometimes knowing that you’re useful is the very best gift of all. This week I got two gifts that truly warmed the cockles of my heart. I have no idea what warmed cockles are, but I’m sure we […]
Do Excuses Keep You Caged
We’re often beating ourselves up over something that has happened in the past, believing that there is something wrong with our ‘gut’ or our intuition. If only we could use a magic wand to break free from our excuse for anything and everything that makes us unhappy. But, would we choose relationships in which we […]
Infertility & Codependency Wreck Mother’s Day
For years I struggled with infertility and grew to hate Mother’s Day. For many people, Mother’s Day isn’t a happy brunch with a sappy card. It’s sadness, regret, division, resentment, worry, and grief. Those are my people. Here’s why I hate Mother’s day. Years ago, a few well-meaning men from my small rural church said, […]