How To Soften Shame
All of us carry the burden of shame, and some of us don’t know where it came from or how to let go of it. “But I was never locked in a closet or beaten with a coat hanger.” I have heard this statement from multiple clients who deny the relevance of emotional abuse. They […]
Child Of Alcoholic Seeks Loving Father Figure
My father wasn’t the trustworthy Dad I longed for and it affected me for years. Although he did love me, it was almost always from afar, where he was safe enough to not get attached to me. When he did get close, I was often the one who got hurt. When I was a kid, […]
Questions Children Of Alcoholics Ask Their Therapists
“Will I be like my dad?” “My whole family are addicts; does this mean I’ll be one too?” Many children of an alcoholic parent are driven to “not end up like” that parent. Unfortunately, what we resist only persists. These adult children often create a life that’s fertile for alcoholism or other addictive behaviors. Anxiety, […]