Do You Play The Addiction Blame Game
Playing The Addiction Blame Game Makes Things Worse There are two parties in the addiction blame game. Those suffering from Substance Use Disorder (SUD) or Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD), and their friends, family, and loved ones. Family and friends can be verbally brutal during periods of active addiction. They want their loved one to stop so badly, […]
Alcohol Abuse Is The King Of Addictions
Alcohol Abuse Is Still A Growing Problem On top of the opioid crisis, meth destruction, and other drug horrors, we still have an alcohol problem in this country. In these complicated times, it’s easy to look at alcohol as the lesser of the evils, but let’s not forget that alcohol abuse is at the center […]
Why You Should Leave Holiday Expectations At Home
Holiday expectations can break your heart, and I had to learn to let them go. As the youngest of four children I was automatically labeled “The Baby” and thus began my journey of being left out. My older siblings treat me as the Baby even now when I am old enough to have grandchildren of […]
Thanksgiving Triggers Of Toxic Past
Thanksgiving triggers can cause misery every year. Here’s an example. Eight years ago, my mother-in-law and I had a huge Thanksgiving feud. She said some things, and for the first time ever, I said some things back. The argument escalated. I called her a name, and she slapped me. She no longer threatens me, but […]
The-Codependent’s Remedy For Resentment
Before I found recovery, I thought my grown-up life to be like TV shows. When no one followed my script for their lives, my expectations led to resentment. Ideally, my family of three would join my extended family for meals, holidays, and parties. We’d laugh together and cry with each other. Our deep love for […]
Why I Won’t Be Home For Christmas
This year, the holidays are hitting me hard. Thanks to Pandora, I’ve heard “I’ll Be Home For Christmas” and “(There’s No Place Like) Home For The Holidays” about 20 times every hour for the last three weeks. And yes, of course, I know I’m wallowing in my grief, so here’s how I’m going to deal […]