What Is Detachment?
When I first came into recovery, I didn’t know what is detachment, or how enmeshed I was with family problems that were out of my control. I was bitter and burnt out. I heard the word detachment and ran. What is detachment anyway I had some learning to do. Early in my recovery, my friend […]
De-cluttering Is A Healthy Detachment –
Spring cleaning is an old concept that has grown beyond dusting behind the sofa. Spring cleaning can mean a deeper kind of de-cluttering that extends from our personal belongings to our destructive personal relationships as well. The KonMari method of de-cluttering and organizing asks that each item (or person in our story) under consideration be […]
Lessons From Dad
Lessons from Dad are not valued much these days. In the good old days, a father’s wisdom was valued by children. Now, not many of my friends even speak to their dads anymore. I don’t know why or what caused the division. It broke my heart, seeing so many of my friends grow up with […]
Blessed Are The Peacemakers?
Addiction is a family disease. Everyone is affected and roles are assigned early. My role in the family is peacemaker. The Bible says, “Blessed are the peacemakers.” I don’t like to question such a respected source, but from my experience, being a peacemaker feels anything but blessed. I have, however, found great peace through recovery, […]
Are You One Of The Ten Most Wanted Enablers
There has been a rash of crimes by a well known gang of enablers. They often swoop into a crisis and derail reality by helping their loved one to avoid the consequences of his or her actions. These enablers interfere in the natural process of life.
Domestic Abuse Doesn’t Have To Define You –
Domestic abuse can be fatal in a family, especially when drugs and alcohol are involved. As a child who bore the brunt of my father’s abuse in my family, and an ex-girlfriend of a violent boyfriend, I’ve some experience of domestic abuse. Here’s the story of how that abuse set me up for intimate partner violence. […]