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25 Lasting Effects Of Childhood Emotional Abuse


25 Lasting Effects Of Childhood Emotional Abuse

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25 Lasting Effects Of Childhood Emotional Abuse

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Emotional abuse isn't always recognized as abuse but leaves lasting scars nonetheless. I was called "girl child and an ugly one," and told I was too stupid to have a career. When a husband called me thunder thighs, I didn't eat anything for two years and still thought I was fat. You get confused about who and what you are and what's happening around you.

People who have experienced emotional abuse are affected in some or all of the following ways.

1. They have commitment issues, probably because they had a hard time trusting anyone as a child.
2. They sometimes go into auto-pilot mode and blank out entire conversations or events. This is due to disassociation, a skill learned in childhood, and it’s often unintentional.
3. They experience mood swings which seem to come at random times and can be the norm for them. This is often because they had to deal with abuse as a kid, and the only response they knew was to model the behavior.

Emotional Abuse Can Lead To Self Harm

 4. They may commit acts of self-harm or other self destructive behaviors. This often follows a pattern established in childhood.
5. They are angry underneath it all, and have outbursts of anger seemingly from nowhere.
6. They are nervous all the time. This may make them seem edgy, or brittle, and they startle easily.

Emotional Abuse Breeds Low Self Esteem

7. They don’t feel valid. No matter what they’re doing, they’re unsure if they can do it.
8. They have low self-esteem.
9. They don’t handle compliments well. They doubt their veracity.

Emotional Abuse Makes People Fearful Of Using Their Voice

10. They are quiet. They don’t feel comfortable using their voice after being worn down as small and wrong throughout their childhood.
11. They may have issues getting close to others, because they may not like people.
12. They may beat themselves up mentally and emotionally, since they were beaten emotionally for many years.

Emotional Abuse Makes People Fear Conflict

13. Conflict gives them immense anxiety, so they often run from it instead of facing it.
14. Making eye contact is extremely difficult and speaking makes them anxious, making it even more difficult.
15. They fear others abandoning or leaving them. They have attachment issues.

Emotional Abuse Can Lead To Feeling You Have To Defend Yourself...All The Time

16. They are often defensive, perceiving people as negative or offensive because of their previous abuse.
17. Often afraid of contact with people, they may be introverted and try to distance themselves as much as possible.
18. They may be sensitive to loud noises, as they were raised in an environment of raised voices and yelling.

People Pleasing Is Another Symptom Of Emotional Abuse

19. Many victims of emotional abuse overdo it because they want to please everyone. They become perfectionistic, tidy, clean and organized.
20. Often they will have trouble making decisions, after hearing throughout childhood that they were not good enough.
21. They are tough, but very sensitive. Because of experiencing a plethora of emotions at a young age, you have considerable emotional sensitivity.

Emotional Abuse Makes People Question Themselves

22. The world of emotional abuse leaves them second-guessing everything. For example, they'll often ask questions to which they already know the answer, due to self-doubt.
23. They constantly say that they’re sorry.
24. They are more likely to have addiction issues.
25. They are actually remarkably humble. They sincerely appreciate the good things in their life. They are a strong, grateful survivor of their past.

You Can Recover

Do any of these symptoms apply to you or anyone you know? There are ways to change the patterns and get healthier. If you need help to deal with emotional scars or addiction, check out Recovery Guidance for a free and safe resource to find professionals near you.



Leslie Glass is the founder of Reach Out Recovery and the winner of the 2016 ASAM Media Award. Leslie is also the creator of Recovery Guidance, the information website for those seeking addiction and mental healthcare for professionals nationwide. Leslie is a journalist, director/producer of award-winning documentaries, and the author of 15 bestselling novels. Leslie has served as Chairman of the Board of Plays For Living, was a member of the Board of Directors of Mystery Writers of America. She has served as a Public Member of the Middle States Commission of Higher Education, as a VP of The Asolo Theatre, and was a Trustee of the New York City Police Foundation.

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