How Dangerous Is It When An Empath Falls For A Narcissist
it’s a very risky business when an empath falls for a narcissist. Does the empath have a chance for the survival of independence and happiness? Nope. Guess whose world turns upside down. Right, it’s not the narcissist. He or she will dominate and always be the same no matter what happens.
We’ve heard, and written, a lot about narcissists and narcissism. In the old days, just a few years ago when relationships were difficult, we often thought the other person was just selfish, but now we know that narcissism is more dangerous. It’s everywhere in the news, and people are becoming more aware of positive relationships, toxic relationships, and the impact of narcissistic relationships on vulnerable people-pleasing people.
I’m a people pleasing person. That means I think about what others want and not what I want. It’s hard for me to say no, or even to choose a restaurant or a movie in case the other person would prefer something else. I also hate confrontation, so when people argue with me, I don’t want to get into it. This people-pleasing, non-confrontational aspect to me makes me vulnerable to loved ones who are bullies. I better watch out who I choose to love. Want to know Why do narcissists choose you.
What Is A Narcissistic Personality
Narcissism is defined as a character disorder in which people see themselves as the center of the world. They believe that they can do no wrong. In order to maintain their delusion of perfection they blame everyone else for everything that goes wrong. Without a conscience or a sense of right and wrong, a narcissist will use any weapon against loved ones or those he/she wants to control. Her, or she, does not care who gets hurt. Nine Traits Of Narcissism.
There is more to being a narcissist than just being selfish or a bully. It’s a calculated form of domination and control. Often someone is groomed to be taken over, and those most at risk are people pleasers and empaths. What to do if you want to stop people pleasing.
What Is An Empath
Judith Orloff, MD defines being an empath this way.
“The trademark of an empath is that they feel and absorb other people’s emotions and/or physical symptoms because of their high sensitivities. They filter the world through their intuition and have a difficult time intellectualizing their feelings.
As a psychiatrist and empath myself, I know the challenges of being a highly sensitive person. When overwhelmed with the impact of stressful emotions, empaths can have panic attacks, depression, chronic fatigue, food, sex and drug binges, and many physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis ” Judith Orloff MD, author of the Empath’s Survival Guide
Why an empath and narcissist are not a perfect match
When an empath falls for a narcissist, things won’t go well. The empath longs for understanding, love, and a lifetime of contentment. The narcissist may seem to want the relationship as much as the empath does. In reality, however, the narcissist wants nothing but constant validation, and someone who is always willing to give it is a perfect match. For him/her. The empath will try to meet all the needs of a narcissist and practically go crazy with the effort. But remember, it’s not just people-pleasing. Empaths endure much more because narcissists won’t let empaths feel any sense of joy, acceptance, accomplishment, or freedom, and that’s torture for them.
When the narcissist playbook of deadly tactics kicks in, the empath will feel the fake pain the narcissist projects and ultimately want to fix him. When this fails, the empath will doubt him/herself, then slowly reevaluate and begin the process of awakening. This learning not to trust a truly hurtful person may take a long time because empaths see themselves as healers. They want to help and not cause pain to others. The relationship will finally end when the empath escapes, sadder but a whole lot wiser, and the narcissist, completely unchanged in any way starts looking for his next victim. How can you achieve self awareness?
Leslie Glass became a recovery advocate and co-founder of Reach Out Recovery in 2011, encouraged by her daughter Lindsey who had struggled with substances as a teen and young adult. Learning how to manage the family disease of addiction with no roadmap to follow inspired the mother and daughter to create Reach Out Recovery's website to help others experiencing the same life-threatening problems. Together they produced the the 2016 ASAM Media Award winning documentary, The Secret World of Recovery, and the teen prevention documentary, The Silent Majority, distributed by American Public Television. In her career, Leslie has worked in advertising, publishing, and magazines as a writer of both fiction and non fiction. She is the author of 9 bestselling crime novels, featuring NYPD Dt.Sgt. April Woo. Leslie has has served as a Public Member of the Middle States Commission of Higher Education and as a Trustee of the New York City Police Foundation. For from 1990 to 2017, Leslie was the Trustee of the Leslie Glass Foundation. Leslie is a proud member of Rotary International.