When An Empath Falls For A Narcissist


How Dangerous Is It When An Empath Falls For A Narcissist


What Is A Narcissistic Personality

There is more to being a narcissist than just being selfish or a bully. It’s a calculated form of domination and control. Often someone is groomed to be taken over, and those most at risk are people pleasers and empaths. What to do if you want to stop people pleasing.

What Is An Empath

Judith Orloff, MD defines being an empath this way.

“The trademark of an empath is that they feel and absorb other people’s emotions and/or physical symptoms because of their high sensitivities. They filter the world through their intuition and have a difficult time intellectualizing their feelings.

As a psychiatrist and empath myself, I know the challenges of being a highly sensitive person. When overwhelmed with the impact of stressful emotions, empaths can have panic attacks, depression, chronic fatigue, food, sex and drug binges, and many physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis ” Judith Orloff MD, author of the Empath’s Survival Guide

Why An Empath And Narcissist Are A Bad Match

When an empath falls for a narcissist, things won’t go well. The empath longs for understanding, love, and a lifetime of contentment. The narcissist may seem to want the relationship as much as the empath does. In reality, however, the narcissist wants nothing but constant validation, and someone who is always willing to give it is a perfect match. For him/her. The empath will try to meet all the needs of a narcissist and practically go crazy with the effort. But remember, it’s not just people-pleasing. Empaths endure much more because narcissists won’t let empaths feel any sense of joy, acceptance, accomplishment, or freedom, and that’s torture for them.

When the narcissist playbook of deadly tactics kicks in, the empath will feel the fake pain the narcissist projects and ultimately want to fix him. When this fails, the empath will doubt him/herself, then slowly reevaluate and begin the process of awakening. This learning not to trust a truly hurtful person may take a long time because empaths see themselves as healers. They want to help and not cause pain to others. The relationship will finally end when the empath escapes, sadder but a whole lot wiser, and the narcissist, completely unchanged in any way starts looking for his next victim.  How can you achieve self awareness?

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