Divorce Or A Breakup Can Offer A New And Better Life. Really.
Divorce always starts with heartbreak. It’s a fact. No one wants to change everything about life and relationships. No one wants to feel alone and like a failure, but breaking up is part of life for millions of people. Almost half of marriages end in divorce these days; so if you’re starting over right now, you’re not alone. You will find someone else to love and to love you. You will recover.
The odds are in your favor. That said, we know it’s hard and challenging in many ways to start over. We’ve been there. Relocating is frightening, even having the motivation to walk around the block at first can seem like too much effort. Living independently after an estrangement or divorce, however, is a wonderful opportunity to recuperate, rediscover, and redefine yourself. What do you love to do? What adventures have you been missing. Are you interested in exploring a new career?
Here are some suggestions to get you motivated and healthy this summer.
- Travel Is Our First Choice
Conflict during a divorce leaves everyone depleted and hurting. The good news is there are some great ways to get out of the trap of recriminations and rage. Traveling is a fantastic chance to escape, literally. With new sights and adventures, you can find a broader perspective on life. So, get your children, or friends and family together, and embark on a trip that motivates and inspires you. You may consider going on an adventure on a transatlantic cruise for the ultimate joy of ocean travel. We love cruises.
- Create New Self-Care Routines
If self-care hasn’t been a priority in your marriage , make it one now. You want to look and feel better? Do something about it. Your body is asking for attention and nourishment now more than ever. How can you help your body and spirit recover? Get a new haircut or makeover if you can afford one. If you don’t have the time for a wardrobe update, go for these.
Rest is top of the self-care list. Get more sleep. You need it. If you’re struggling to fall asleep, detach from your devices and turn off the TV. We love to read before sleep. It works to calm raging thoughts and puts us out like a light. Combat your anxiety with mediation.
Nutrition: It’s worth it to take the time to eat the food you need for brain health. Yes, food also impacts your mood, too. Wherever you are, you can find fresh produce this summer and eat the food your brain needs now. Cooking simple meals and grilling outdoors is also fun and fulfilling.
Exercise: Get out for a walk. Go to the beach. Be in nature. Any kind of exercise and moving your body gets your endorphins going for a better mood. Do something outside and active every day. Also, practice mindful exercises.
- Establish New Routines And Hobbies
If you’re in a new location, new routines will help you get to know your environment. Discover what your neighborhood has to offer. Try new stores and restaurants.
This is also great time to try new hobbies, or return to things you used to love. If marriage held you back, you can now rediscover who you were and want to be.
- Take a course and learn something new, or prepare for a new career.
- Read some books for fun. Join a book club.
- Enjoy quiet time to just be yourself.
- Try yoga, meditation, Tai Chi, Pilates.
4. Reconnect With Old Friends Or Make New Ones
Support and connection are two of the more important components of divorce recovery. If you have a supportive family, engage them now. It’s okay to ask for help. If you need therapy, get it. It’s hard to recover from trauma all by yourself. Connect with old friends. They will be glad to hear from you and may want to get involved again. Getting the support from friends, family, even co-workers who have been there, and even therapy can launch you into the better life that you deserve. Join a divorce support group.