6 Tips To Manage An Emotional Crisis

The Trick To Managing An Emotional Crisis Is To Have A Plan

An emotional crisis can come in any shape or sizes. They can come from family issues, work stress, personal problems, and the big ones like death, divorce, and moving. Sometimes we see them coming, and sometimes we are caught off guard and knocked off our feet. Since I am an expert in emotional crises, I thought I might share a few of my favorite tips for how to manage when you can’t manage at all. Here are the warning signs.

An Emotional Crisis Is Easier To Heal When You Have Practice

I’ve experienced the death of loved ones, divorce, family alienation, and a host of other emotionally disturbing events. The good news is, it’s given me experience to handle tough times. Now, I know what to do to stay mentally healthy, physically healthy, and keep my head above water. So, when I recently had two major life changes happen rather quickly, I had a team of people ready to support me, and 20+ years of recovery ready for action. Death and separation are unfortunately traumas I’ve already dealt with, so I knew what to do when they happened this time.

6 Tips To Cope With An Emotional Crisis

Emotional Crisis Tip 1: Have People to Call

I have two sponsors, a Buddhist mentor, a work mentor, a therapist I can call when I need to, a host of sober people who I can call any time, my family, and a few incredibly trustworthy friends. We don’t have to do hard things alone. When the team knew what was coming, they got to work. Both sponsors have supported me and given me the advice to follow, which I have. I talked to my therapist to process and received excellent instructions from her (those to come). I told my close friends and WOW did they show up. From invitations to dinner to comedy shows, to general caring, my girls have my back. Having this team of people gear up to show me love and support was the most poignant and profound part of the last few months. Create your team and keep them close. If you are super shy, and can’t ask for help, don’t worry. Follow tips 2-6. We’ll talk about making friends in another article. Move right on to tip #2.

Emotional Crisis Tip 2: Focus On Your Brain Health

What does it mean to focus on brain health. My therapist’s main advice was to assure me that it’s OK to have a sad moment and release a few tears, but don’t stay there. I’ve done the trauma therapy, I’ve processed my childhood pain, I don’t need to live in despair anymore. I’ve done my time. Brain health means literally taking the actions that keep your brain functioning in a positive way. For me, that is being in nature, Buddhist chanting, exercise, yoga, reading, and other activities that help me ease my anxiety and release the feel good-hormones: Endorphins, Oxytocin, Serotonin in healthy ways listed above.

Emotional Crisis Tip 3: Eat Healthy

It’s so easy to lean into comfort food when we feel emotional pain, but don’t do it more than you need to. One of my sponsors reminded me to eat sensibly throughout this time. Adding tons of processed food into my body won’t make me feel better mentally or physically. Weight gain is also a big trigger for me. This is not the time to invite self-loathing into the equation.

Emotional Crisis Tip 4: Self Care, Self Care, Self Care.

I can only speak to what this looks like for me. If I need to take a nap in the middle of the day, I take a nap. If I need to stop working and take a walk, I do. If I’m not up to going to an event, I skip it. My comfort is the priority right now. Whether it’s spa time or being financially responsible, figure out what self care works for you and do it. Sometimes, it’s just watching a Hallmark Christmas movie in August.

Emotional Crisis Tip 5: Radical Self Acceptance (Accept Yourself)

I used to think that radical self-acceptance was silly. Now, I understand that it is its own version of self-care. When you already feel terrible, it’s not a good idea to let that negative inner voice reign in your head. This is the time to keep reminding yourself that you’re human and doing the best you can do. I remind myself that I’m learning and that everything happens for a reason.

Emotional Crisis Tip 6: Sing and Dance

Yes, sometimes I play awesome music and dance and sing. It doesn’t always work, but when it does I feel better. It’s like when they say smile and you may actually feel happier. Singing and dancing are happy, cathartic activities. Also, laugh. Laughing is a medicine, too.

Learn From Your Emotional Crisis

The best thing that can come from and emotional crisis and tough times is to learn from them. Seeing that you can get through them is a phenomenal lesson, as is knowing that bad times and painful feelings do lessen with time. The key is to nurture yourself with everything good and not fall into a hole of despair where you aren’t able to care for yourself.