When you’re not too sensitive, you know the truth. Someone is controlling you by making you feel bad. And there’s no way to fix it. The other person won’t listen long enough for you to speak your truth. Narcissists use the sensitivity chip to get away with abusive behavior. It takes two to have a good relationship. In a healthy relationship one person doesn’t do hurtful things and then say, “I didn’t mean anything by it,” or “You’re just too sensitive.”
Let’s talk about healthy relationships
Do you know the difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy ones? Many people have not had enough exposure to what a healthy relationship looks like to know. What is different about a healthy relationship as opposed to an unhealthy one. Here are some answers.
5 Hallmarks Of A Healthy Relationship
- Can Speak Up For Yourself: You’re not afraid to voice your thoughts or let your partner know if something is bothering you
- Partners Respect Each Other: Your wishes and feelings have value. You respect what the other person feels, but value your own feelings equally
- There Is Compromise: You find a way to compromise in a safe and healthy way when dealing with issues on which you don’t agree
- Each Person Is Supportive: You build each other up. Neither puts the other person down. You encourage each other to try new things when inspiration strikes
- Respect The Other Person’s Privacy: You don’t feel the need with to know or to share everything, including your password or other private information Read more
You’re not too sensitive when bad feelings are chronic
Let’s be clear. Sensitivity can also be a form of control. When someone has constantly hurt feelings when you’re just being normal, it’s a way to gain control. You feel like you’re always walking on eggshells and can’t be yourself. When someone says you’re being too sensitive and you’re not too sensitive at all, it’s time to reassess the relationship and whether it’s worth the pain. Check out 100 Tips For Growing Up for easy self awareness and action.