Detachment is an opportunity for growth
Detachment is an opportunity for growth

Detachment is an opportunity for growth for so many reasons, even though at times it may seem downright cruel to turn away from helping. If it’s easy for me to wash the dishes or do the marketing and include my loved ones in my tasks for myself, I may think helping isn’t a big deal. But it is a big deal because it costs me money and takes my time and energy while teaching my loved ones they don’t have to take care of themselves. In families where there is substance or alcohol use, there are constantly crises to manage. Who should manage those crises? You don’t want to end up doing it, because it will only get worse.

Often we confuse enabling with support or help. We think helping our loved ones out of jams or doing their work for them helps them cope.

In fact, the more we take care of little things, like doing the laundry, washing dishes, paying for tickets, and bailing people out of jail for DUIs, the less they have to do for themselves. Our helping prevents them from learning what they should and shouldn’t do to grow up and manage their own lives.

Detachment is an opportunity for growth
Letting go of the old me allows me to create the new

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Leslie Glass

Leslie Glass became a recovery advocate and co-founder of Reach Out Recovery in 2011, encouraged by her daughter Lindsey who had struggled with substances as a teen and young adult. Learning how to manage the family disease of addiction with no roadmap to follow inspired the mother and daughter to create Reach Out Recovery's website to help others experiencing the same life-threatening problems. Together they produced the the 2016 ASAM Media Award winning documentary, The Secret World of Recovery, and the teen prevention documentary, The Silent Majority, distributed by American Public Television. In her career, Leslie has worked in advertising, publishing, and magazines as a writer of both fiction and non fiction. She is the author of 9 bestselling crime novels, featuring NYPD Dt.Sgt. April Woo. Leslie has has served as a Public Member of the Middle States Commission of Higher Education and as a Trustee of the New York City Police Foundation. For from 1990 to 2017, Leslie was the Trustee of the Leslie Glass Foundation. Leslie is a proud member of Rotary International.

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