Growing Up In Recovery After You Get Sober


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Growing up after sobriety

If you stick around recovery groups for a while, you’ll eventually hear someone talk about growing up in recovery. That’s my story. When this all began, I simply needed to get sober and stay sober. What I didn’t realize was that I came into recovery with very few skills that would be helpful for a responsible, adult life. That’s not to say I didn’t have lots of other finely tuned skills, but things like professional accountability, financial responsibility, and emotional stability? Not so much. I was severely lacking the tools for living that could help me navigate the ups-and-downs of life.

I had no clue I wouldn’t just be getting sober, I’d be growing up in recovery

My early sobriety was often riddled with setbacks having to do with any of the following: Arguments with friends or family could push me right off the beam. I didn’t really understand how my behavior affected others and I definitely let the behaviors of others dictate my happiness, and how I felt about myself.

From personal to professional, I needed pointers on how to behave that would support a new way of living

When things got complicated or stressful in professional situations I would find some way out, not realizing the inconvenience that caused. I didn’t have the best follow through or ability to take criticism early on and it didn’t serve me well at work.

Even when it came to finances and basic organization, I needed help

Then, when it came to my personal finances, I was always surprised by things like bills and taxes and I was rarely prepared to get them done or paid. In part, because that was not something I had ever learned how to do. I had bookkeepers and accountants from the age of 16. But, by my mid 30s that was something I needed to learn how to do for myself for a bazillion reasons.

Learning how to be an adult was a daunting but necessary task

The positive part of this story is, I always wanted to be better and was willing to learn. I also had access to great sponsors, therapists, life coaches, you name it. One of the biggest reasons I became an advocate was to help lawmakers understand that everyone needs access to help and great healthcare, regardless of their insurance situation. Help and support are a key ingredient for the recovery of trauma, addiction, mental health issues and in my case, arrested development.

Growing up after sobriety requires the help of many

I grew up in recovery with the guidance and support of sponsors, mentors and professionals. I would not have been able to do it without my recovery army and their direction. There were things I would not have been able to hear about myself from family and friends. Breakthroughs I never would have had without professional help and the support of other people in recovery. Knowing I wasn’t alone through this made all the difference. Having friends to walk through it all with also carried me at times.

When I started writing down little gems from my tutelage, I didn’t think more of it than providing some life tips for our audience. When people wrote in asking where it was compiled was the first I considered putting it all together in one place. But, thus was born 100 Tips For Growing Up. If nothing else, I’m glad I did the exercise of putting it all into writing. It honors those who helped me. It honors me that I can do these things today. Complete the task. From concept through execution. Make it a pleasant experience for everyone. Share the information that was freely, and not so freely, given to me.

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Lindsey Glass

Lindsey Glass is the co-founder of Reach Out Recovery. Her 2016 ASAM Media Award winning documentary, The Secret World Of Recovery, has helped to lift the stigma from addiction and recovery and is used in recovery programs nationwide to show what life is like on the other side of addiction. Lindsey's teen prevention documentary, The Silent Majority, was distributed to PBS stations nationwide by American Public Television in 2014-15. Lindsey has written dozens of popular articles on recovery. She is a recovery advocate and frequent keynote speaker. Lindsey is the author of 100 Tips for Growing Up, My 20 Years of Recovery, 2019. Before focusing on recovery, Lindsey was a TV and screenwriter. She has worked in publishing, web development, and marketing.
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