Mother Daughter Trauma Quiz: Are You Repeating the Past in Your Relationships

Are you ready for the mother daughter trauma quiz? Not sure? Here’s the question – are your adult relationships troubled in different ways? Did you have a difficult or toxic mom? It could be that unhealed issues from mom and childhood are STILL impacting your adult relationships. The trick is to identify if it’s happening and find some tools to change. But, it starts here with self-awareness.

Mother Daughter Trauma Quiz

Instructions:
For each statement, rate how true it feels for you on a scale of 1 (Not at all true) to 5 (Very true).
Be honest — this quiz is for awareness, not judgment.

Section 1: Emotional Safety & Trust

1️⃣ I often expect people I love to leave, disappoint, or reject me.
2️⃣ When someone gets close, I feel anxious or pull away.
3️⃣ I have trouble believing someone could love me just as I am.
4️⃣ I crave connection but don’t feel safe depending on others.
5️⃣ I overthink people’s moods or fear I’ve done something wrong.

Section 2: Boundaries & Control

6️⃣ I struggle to say “no,” especially to people I care about.
7️⃣ I often feel responsible for other people’s emotions.
8️⃣ I find myself trying to “fix” others or earn love by helping.
9️⃣ When someone doesn’t meet my needs, I don’t know how to ask — I either shut down or explode.
🔟 I feel guilty when I put my own needs first.

Section 3: Self-Worth & Identity

1️⃣ I base my worth on how much I do for others.
2️⃣ I often feel not good enough — no matter what I accomplish.
3️⃣ Criticism or rejection from loved ones feels crushing.
4️⃣ I hear my mother’s voice in my head when I doubt myself.
5️⃣ I don’t always know what I really want or need.

Section 4: Patterns & Triggers

6️⃣ I attract emotionally unavailable or critical partners.
7️⃣ I replay arguments or feel overly responsible for fixing things.
8️⃣ I feel drained or “too much” in relationships.
9️⃣ When conflict happens, I either shut down or panic.
0️⃣ I fear becoming like my mother — or feel I already have.

Scoring The Mother Daughter Trauma Quiz

16–35: You may carry mild patterns of learned caretaking or people-pleasing. You’re aware and can start breaking the cycle with conscious effort.
36–60: Your mother-daughter dynamic likely left deep emotional imprints affecting your sense of safety and self-worth. Healing work — therapy, journaling, or our Mother–Daughter Relationship Makeover Workbook — can help you unlearn old patterns.
61–100: Your relationships may be heavily shaped by unresolved trauma. This doesn’t mean you’re broken — it means you’ve been surviving. Now it’s time to build new, healthier emotional wiring and reclaim your peace.

Reflection Prompts For Mother Daughter Trauma Quiz

When did you first notice these patterns in your relationships?
What emotions come up when you think about your mother or childhood connection?
How might your relationships change if you felt completely safe, worthy, and free to be yourself?

How Mother Daughter Trauma Sabotages Your Relationships

That’s where tools like journaling, boundary-setting, and reflective exercises become life-changing. In The Mother-Daughter Relationship Makeover Workbook for Lasting Change, I guide you through uncovering these hidden scripts and replacing them with new ones. You’ll find assessments to reveal how old wounds show up in your adult life, journal prompts to rewrite the story, and communication tools to build healthy connections going forward.

Because love isn’t supposed to feel like a test you can never pass. When you heal the original wound, you create space for relationships built on respect, equality, and joy — love that finally feels like enough.

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Who Is The Mother-Daughter Relationship Makeover Workbook For Lasting Change For?

Everyone who wants to understand and improve relationships with family. This workbook is for mothers and daughters of all ages and stages. Maybe you’re a mother who longs to reconnect with your adult daughter, or doesn’t understand what went wrong with her. Maybe you’re a daughter who desperately needs to let go of old resentments and hurts. Maybe you’re somewhere in between, just knowing there must be a better way.

It’s also for anyone who:

Feels stuck in repetitive conflict
Wants to create healthier boundaries
Craves more closeness but doesn’t know how to get there
Is healing from a dysfunctional or toxic family system and needs tools for recovery

If you’ve ever wanted more love, more peace, more understanding in your most important relationship, this book was made for you.

Why It Matters Now

Healing doesn’t just impact you and your mother (or daughter). It ripples outward. The way we show up in this relationship influences how we connect in every area of our lives—with our children, partners, friends, even colleagues. Breaking the cycle of hurt here means creating a new legacy of healthier love.

This workbook gives you the structure and courage to begin that process—and to keep going until lasting change is real.

A Loving Invitation

If you’re ready to stop replaying the same painful dynamics, if you’re ready to learn new tools and write a new story for yourself and your family, The Mother-Daughter Relationship Makeover Workbook For Lasting Change is your guide.

Healing isn’t easy—but it is possible. With reflection, practice, and support, you can build a relationship rooted in respect, compassion, and genuine love. This workbook is here to help you get there.

Because every mother and daughter deserves a chance to heal. And so do you.