Have you ever stopped to think that you’re your biggest bully? When was the last time you stopped and really considered how you’re talking to yourself? What’s your inner dialogue like? Maybe you’re kind and compassionate to others, but you talk yourself down from excelling at what you love. Here are three ideas to help you learn how to alter that inner dialogue and stop being your biggest bully.
Stop being your biggest bully by writing a list of positive traits
These are all about you. Think about what you like about yourself. Is there something you like about yourself physically? Then consider your hobbies. What do you love to do during your free time? Think about how far you’ve come with that particular hobby. Brainstorm and keep from comparing yourself to others. This is your life. Your path.
If you need more reasons why you should stop bullying yourself, here’s an article about why you absolutely need to love yourself.
Don’t worry about what others are doing
Those people you compare yourself to? Those people who compare you to others? Don’t worry about them. This is your life. You are the one in charge of where you go from here. Who cares about what that other person just did? They have their own path as well. Always remember that this isn’t a race and as long as you try your best, you’re doing great.
Don’t bully yourself into avoiding trying something new
The way you talk to yourself can make it impossible to break out of your comfort zone and try new things. How can you grow if you don’t branch out? Any time you start thinking about the reasons why you “can’t” do something, think about all that you’ve been able to overcome. Within reason, you can do whatever you put your mind to. For more tips to help you work through that inner dialogue, check out Lindsey Glass’s new book, 100 Tips For Growing Up.
Now that you know some tips to help keep you from being your biggest bully, take the quiz to see how well you’re doing at being your best self: