How can you stop enabling? Rescuing is critically important when you’re dealing with young children. But adults, whether friends, loved ones, or relatives, who keep making poor choices and hurting themselves need life lessons more than safety nets. Detachment from helping doesn’t apply to people who are suicidal or mentally ill, however. When people are in crisis, they need extra support. It’s an important distinction to make.
But helping people who can help themselves only keeps them helpless forever.