manipulation makes you a fixer who can never win

Manipulation makes you a fixer by getting you to do, often unreasonable, things that you really don’t want to do. It’s important to know that manipulation is often built on a series of lies and misinformation. Lies what’s really happening or about you inspire negative feelings. You feel guilty or sad, and you worry about what the manipulator thinks of you, and what could happen if you don’t do what he/she wants.

Why manipulation makes you a fixer who can’t ever win

Your natural eagerness to help in every way fuels the manipulator to ask for more. Yet no matter how many hoops you jump through nothing is fixed for long. Manipulators rely on you to back down and give in to ever greater demands. Call it an addiction.

Manipulators use arguments, moods, emotional threats, etc. to keep you working for them no matter what the cost to you. A few examples include:

  • Transportation anywhere any time for any reason
  • Money for crisis after crisis
  • Help finding shelter, jobs, food, travel, medical needs, law enforcement, legal
  • Job covering up or fixing things
  • Moral Support on the phone for hours every day

How to disengage is ridiculously easy in concept and incredibly difficult in reality because manipulators will stop at nothing to confuse you and make you think you’re both essential to them and crazy or selfish or plain mean for objecting. Steps to recovering your sanity and your life include Awareness, Thinking About Change, and Taking Action. read more


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Leslie Glass

Leslie Glass became a recovery advocate and co-founder of Reach Out Recovery in 2011, encouraged by her daughter Lindsey who had struggled with substances as a teen and young adult. Learning how to manage the family disease of addiction with no roadmap to follow inspired the mother and daughter to create Reach Out Recovery's website to help others experiencing the same life-threatening problems. Together they produced the the 2016 ASAM Media Award winning documentary, The Secret World of Recovery, and the teen prevention documentary, The Silent Majority, distributed by American Public Television. Leslie is also the creator of Recovery Guidance, the information website for those seeking addiction and mental healthcare for professionals nationwide. In her career, Leslie has worked in advertising, publishing, and magazines as a writer of both fiction and non fiction. She is the author of 9 bestselling crime novels, featuring NYPD Dt.Sgt. April Woo. Leslie has has served as a Public Member of the Middle States Commission of Higher Education and as a Trustee of the New York City Police Foundation. For from 1990 to 2017, Leslie was the Trustee of the Leslie Glass Foundation.

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